Coping with a relationship break up takes plenty of mental strength but if you are currently on the wrong end of a break up - that is, the person given their marching orders then you don't need anyone to tell you this. However, what you need to know is if you're desperate to get back with your ex, then don't fret, it's not all over yet. Hopefully you didn't destroy any hope of a reconciliation by letting your emotions control you and make a big scene? In this article, we want to highlight some of the "don'ts" you need to observe when you're on the wrong end of a dumping.
Yes we know, maintaining etiquette in a situation such as this is difficult and why should you give your ex the satisfaction of having the last word in the relationship? Big mistake, especially if you intend on getting your ex back!
Magic Of Making Up Advice
T W Jackson may have ruffled a few traditional opinions about the best way of coping with a relationship break up in The Magic Of Making Up but you've got to hand it to him; in a short space of time, about 7000 people have used his techniques to find their way back into their former relationships.
Here's a list of things you shouldn't do in a break up and you're the one who "got it in the neck" so to speak. And don't worry, if you're break up happened a few days ago or even longer, there are still things you can do to get yourself back in some favor.
Things You Don't Do When You Get Dumped
1. Don't stay and argue with your ex. Avoid the temptation to massage your ego just to get the last word in because if you want to be back, then this will just about severe the umbilical chord holding the relationship together completely.
2. Avoid phoning your ex continually. This like arguing simply going to antagonise him/her and besides, what's the point when your calls probably won't be answered anyway.
3. Don't be tempted to follow up a call with a text message or an email if you don't get a response.
4. Definitely avoid the temptation to talk to their family and friends and try and get them to change your ex's mind. They are his/her family and friends for a reason so who do you think they are going to be loyal to?
5. Don't try and win the sympathy vote. It rarely works. That is, telling your ex you are falling to pieces without them or trying to convince their friends of this and hoping they'll report this to your ex. It's unattractive and ugly behavior and the truth is, it doesn't work.
6. Finally, you're going to be tempted to turn up where your ex hangs out. Worse still, you might even be tempted to run your own surveillance missions and follow them around. Again, not a good idea and when you get noticed doing this it's like acting wimpy in the previous point, it's unattractive.
So what should you do and how should you cope with a relationship break up? Well, we plan to give you some solid advice on this blog right from the wisdom of T W Jackson and The Magic Of Making Up. That's coming up soon.
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