Tuesday, 03 March 2009

• Are You Wondering Does My Ex Want Me Back?

  Getting over a one-sided break up is never easy and the hardest part is actually dealing with the hope of a reconciliation. How many times have you asked yourself does my ex want me back?
  
  Now how would you react if this hope suddenly became a reality. Would you hop straight back into the relationship and let bygones be bygones?
  
  Have you forgotten you were the one that was dumped? Did you get a reason why? Infidelity aside, what issues was your ex going through to take the drastic action of ending what you thought was a happy union.
  
  Here are some of the things they may have been going through:
  
  1. They could have needed their space which is a lame excuse but it's one that is often used on many occasions to make the person being dumped feel a little better as if to let them know "it's not you."
  
  2. They may have been going through family problems but again, is this a good enough reason to dump your partner?
  
  3. They may have been going through some insecurity issues and this is a tough one to deal with.
  
  4. What about their fear of commitment? We're they afraid to commit to a more lasting relationship when it came to the crunch? If they didn't, were they really the person you wanted to be with anyway?   
  
  What To Do
  
  You may have thought does my ex want me back and deep down hoped they did. Now how do you handle the renewed attention. Let's take a leaf out of The Magic Of Making Up.
  
  --> Play a little hard to get at first. You don't want to give them the impression you are a desperate with no prospects and you'll take anything that comes along. Time to show that ol' pride here and if they want you then they are going to have to work a little.
  
  --> You'll need to play hard to get in moderation though because this is what your ex will most likely respond to. If you jump in hard and fast and get back together with them at the first sign of an invitation then you'll more than likely come across needy and desperate and your ex will most likely be put off by this and start pushing you back again. Can you see the reasoning here?
  
  --> It's quite likely that the renewed interest has come simply from the fact that you were playing hard to get anyway so make them earn it and keep them curious. This is a powerful attraction factor but as we said earlier, it needs a little moderation.
  
  
  

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